Take a fear (e.g., "I'm afraid of failing at this new project") and ask: “What must I value so much that the thought of losing it scares me?”

Instead of saying "I want this, but I'm afraid," try saying Replacing "but" with "and" stops the internal conflict. It allows both emotions to exist without one canceling out the other. The Bottom Line

Stop fighting the fear and start acknowledging the value it’s trying to protect. 2. Auditing Your "Wants"

Prove to your brain that you can pursue a "want" without the "fear" coming true in its worst-case scenario. 4. Reframing the Narrative