: Telling yourself or others to "calm down" is often condescending and ineffective. Instead, focus on slow, deep breathing to reset your system.
: Experts from Focus on the Family Canada recommend not letting "the sun go down on your anger," as waiting too long allows negative feelings to fester. outburst
: Notice if your body is reacting with a racing heart or clenched jaw. : Telling yourself or others to "calm down"
: Instead of making demands, explain your feelings by saying things like, "I am feeling frustrated because...". focus on slow
: Beating yourself up only keeps you stuck in negativity. Resources from Volunteer Counseling Service emphasize that while you must be accountable, practicing self-forgiveness makes it easier to make things right.